Have you ever found yourself blurting out “I love you” right after sex and then scrambling to explain that what you really meant was something more along the lines of, “I love having sex with you”?
Well, now you can blame science for that over-sharing nightmare spiral.
In a study published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, researchers from the Interdisciplinary Centre Herzliya in Israel found that people were more likely to share deeply personal information with someone after knocking boots with them.
In several experiments, heterosexual people were placed in situations where they were exposed to either erotic stimuli (like pictures and film scenes) or non-sexual material. Participants were then asked to divulge a personal experience to an opposite-sex stranger via an instant messaging app or face-to-face. The researchers found that those who had been exposed to sexual imagery were more likely to share with the strangers.
“These findings suggest that activation of the sexual system encourages the use of strategies that allow people to become closer to potential partners,” said researchers.
The study provides more fuel to the "cuddle hormone" theory, which is that the hormones released after sex cause humans to seek deeper connections with one another.
“After humans orgasm, we release a hormone called oxytocin,'” said psychologist and relationship expert Nicole McCance. “We feel more attached and more likely to trust the person we’ve just been intimate with.”
McCance added that our tendency to be relaxed and vulnerable after sex could also contribute to our likelihood of blurting out something we didn’t necessarily intend to.
“Our brain likes to match the circumstance - we are literally naked after sex and our brain equates that with emotional nakedness, which could lead you to unleash private details about yourself,” she said.
If you believe that honesty is a good thing, but would rather avoid expressing it with all your bits hanging out next to a relative stranger, McCance offers some advice.
“Ask yourself how you feel in this person’s presence on a regular basis,” she said. “Is this sense of wanting to share your heart and your feelings consistent, or does it only come up when you’re in bed?”
h/t Global News