Alcohol is almost everyone's favourite drug for getting it on - but an increasing number of people are getting turned on to incorporating cannabis into their dating lives: why shouldn't you be able to share a joint before a hike, or a few hits at the beach with your significant other? We wondered how many Americans were doing just that, but the relationship between lighting up and our romantic partnerships isn't entirely straightforward.
In our inaugural Civilized Cannabis Culture Poll of 1,050 Americans conducted by Environics Research Group, we tried to see how people were incorporating cannabis into their dating lives. And the answer is that, as in most things in the dating world, it's a bit of a crapshoot.
Roughly half of Americans surveyed - 48 percent - said they'd date someone who smoked marijuana if they were single. Men were the most open-minded, with 56 percent saying they wouldn't exclude someone from the dating pool just because they smoked marijuana.
Men are more accepting than women
Younger male users were even more cool with a partner who lights up, although, among older demographics, views were generally more conservative. While more than half of those aged 25-44 said they'd date a cannabis consumer, 62 percent of respondents aged 55 and over said it would affect their relationship prospects negatively.
Only 36 percent of women said they'd be willing to date someone who smoked marijuana regularly (perhaps, if we dare to hazard a guess, they're afraid of weed dick.) It seems that most people simply want to date dynamic, interesting people that made cannabis part of a rich and varied lifestyle, as opposed than the sole focus of everything they do.
"There's a difference between the casual stoner who prefers smoking to drinking and the guy who can't have normal social behaviour," Lee, 24, tells Cosmopolitan, adding her ex would want to get high before simple activities like going to a movie or to eat with friends. "It got to a point where I just became so frustrated with the inconvenience."
Use common sense: it's unwise to consume anything before a first date - be it cannabis, alcohol or any other drug. Better to present your true, awkward, unadulterated self, and ask later about bringing the one-hitter.
Dating apps for consumers
While less than 50 percent or all our respondents, and only 36 percent of women, said they'd date a cannabis consumer, those who consumed cannabis themselves were considerably more tolerant: eight in 10 (81%) users say they would date someone else who smokes pot, and six percent would date them for casual sex. We aren't sure what's up with the eight percent of users who wouldn't date fellow consumers: aspirations of quitting? Self-loathing? Hard to say.
If you're getting totally fed up, those in legal states could swipe around on High There!, a "smart, sexy, and sticky-icky" app designed specifically for helping consumers find sex and hookups with fellow smokers. A cannabis-friendly dating coach like Molly Peckler of Highly Devoted also appreciates the complexity of negotiating marijuana use as well as dating.
"So many people get into a relationship and one person smokes and the other person doesn't, and then the smoker is forced to be a little bit secret about what is going on," Peckler said in an interview with VICE, "and whenever there are secrets in a relationship that's just toxic. Nothing good can come from it. It's not like you have to be with someone who smokes, but if it's an important part of your life the person you're with has to be okay with it. And not just OK, but supportive."
"A lot of people who use cannabis - and I don't want to over-generalize - have similar senses of humor or similar perspectives," says Peckler. "You have to be on the same page. Opposites attract, but that's not going to last in the long run.
Even if love remains elusive: take heart: at least you'll be have a lot of great sex.