There’s a lot to be said for the relationship between love, sex and cannabis.
Whether you’re struggling to find your ‘bowl mate’, or you’ve already tracked them down and have found that a shared passion for cannabis makes your union that much stronger, Molly Peckler of Highly Devoted Coaching has seen it all – first- and second-hand.
That’s why Peckler – the world’s first cannabis-friendly dating coach – isn’t surprised that stories about love and sex have done so well with Civilized readers over the last year. In fact, three of the year’s Top 10 most-read stories concerned the topic: Is Pineapple Jack The Best Sex Strain Ever?, Here’s Why Cannabis Is The Perfect Aphrodisiac and What Is Weed Dick And Do You Have It?
“I think a lot of people have faced so much stigma and judgment when it comes to cannabis – especially when it comes to romantic relationships – [that] when they see there’s information out there and people who are positively portraying the union of sex and dating and cannabis, there’s a sense of relief,” said Peckler, who has been featured in Civilized articles for her pioneering profession several times over the last year.
“It’s like, ‘Wow, someone is finally talking to me and I don’t have to be in the dark anymore.’”
In large part, this is what Peckler’s unique line of work – which involves everything from providing dating- and life-coaching services for cannabis consumers to hosting cannabis-friendly singles mixers – is all about: shedding light on the radical notion that cannabis can provide a range of benefits not only to the lives of individuals, but to the relationships enjoyed by those individuals.
Peckler believes confidence is key when it comes to building relationships, making cannabis the perfect accessory for those who need a little help easing their social anxieties. In other words, cannabis encourages its users to be “authentic” with themselves and with others, subsequently allowing for deeper and more meaningful connections.
“You meet someone and you find out that they’re a cannabis consumer and… you automatically feel like you can be yourself,” said Peckler.
“To be able to build on that and use cannabis as a way to facilitate those connections… to be comfortable being yourself and being open with someone, that’s a fast track for a great relationship.”
It’s certainly been the case for Peckler herself, who is married to a fellow cannabis enthusiast she met over a decade ago. She said her relationship has benefited immeasurably over the years from a shared love of cannabis, as its effects encourage she and her husband to be honest and vulnerable with one another.
“I always feel when I’m consuming [cannabis] that I’m still myself. I may have a different perspective, I may be looking at things a little differently, but I’m still me and I’m still in control of my actions,” said Peckler, adding that cannabis has a way of “balancing” her out.
“It’s just helped me in so many ways and there’s just no way my husband and I would’ve ever fallen in love and had such a strong relationship if we weren’t able to share our mutual passion for cannabis together.”
When it comes to the role cannabis plays in her sex life – and the role it can play in yours – Peckler said the benefits are similar to those she experiences outside of the bedroom. While cannabis isn’t something she and her husband incorporate every single time – Peckler encourages moderation – she knows which strains to turn to for that extra dose of intimacy. She also enjoys more alternative products, like the cannabis-infused lubricant line by Foria.
“There are certain strains for me that I know are my go-to strains for turning me on; Granddaddy Purps, for some reason, just gets me going,” said Peckler with a laugh.
“Bringing cannabis into [the bedroom] can just take it to another level…it’s not something you have to do every time, but it’s a great way to connect with people when you’re in the mood.”
It’s her own personal success story that motivates Peckler to keep spreading the good word about cannabis and the part it can play in a healthy, happy relationship. She believes demand for these kinds of highly specialized services – along with general knowledge about the benefits of pairing cannabis with your love life – will only continue to grow as more states vote for legalization come November and the stigma around cannabis keeps falling away.
“No matter what, it’s not easy to find your ideal partner…and cannabis just complicates that,” said Peckler. “I’m just trying to show people that cannabis is nothing to be ashamed of…and it can be an amazing way to connect with someone.”
Editor's note: As Civilized celebrates one year of publishing, we're reflecting on the stories and issues that resonated most with our audience in the past 12 months. This is one of series of posts that includes founder and publisher Derek Riedle's commentary, A Year Of Elevating Cannabis Culture.
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